Trust Issues

Trust is a fragile thing, it's hard to earn and easy to lose.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. However, it's hard to build trust when we are afraid to get hurt. This is especially true in a relationship where we have been hurt before. It can be hard to believe that someone will not hurt us again and it's difficult to let our guard down.

There are many reasons why people find it difficult to trust others, but one of the most common reasons is past heartbreak. We may have been betrayed by someone who was way too important in our lives and now we cannot trust anyone else because they might betray us too.

Trust is something that we need in our lives. It's a way for us to feel safe and secure. When we don't have it, it can be very hard to live life.

In a world where we are constantly surrounded by fake news and misinformation, it is more important than ever to trust yourself.

The world has evolved and so have the ways we communicate. We now have the ability to curate our own reality and our own version of the truth. We are bombarded with so much information that it's hard to know what is true or not. The only way to find out is to be skeptical and question everything you read, hear or see. You can't just believe what people say anymore.

When you trust someone, you allow yourself to be vulnerable near them, what happens when that vulnerability is made a mockery of? What transpires to that heart, which was completely in someone's hands and is now being torn apart inch by inch? Will they ever be the same person again? Will that heart ever be at peace? Will that person ever be the same? Will the mind and heart of that person ever come to a joint decision? As a result, the mind and heart of that person are in a state of continuous war at every Y-junction of life.

And when you are this person, you may come across as a negative human who does not give a chance to life.  

People around you may throw gibes at you for being too "police", but a glass once broken can never be the same again. What they don't understand is that trusting is hard for us and knowing whom to trust is hardest. So, we don't trust anyone at all. 

"Do you not trust yourself then?"

"Why, yes! I just got myself heartbroken by trusting the wrong person/people. Ofcourse I dont trust myself"

De jure, when a glass breaks into tiny pieces, one may not find all the pieces.

Similarly, once you get your heart broken, you loose a piece of yourself. You continuously question your judgment your capability and more so your conscious,

"How did I trust him/her?"

"How could I not see?!!"

"How foolish/blind/stupid/gullible was I??"

They say in Japan, broken stuff is mended together with gold. Kintsugi.

This is what the Wikipedia has to say about it: 

Kintsugi is the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold — a metaphor for embracing your flaws and imperfections. “You won't realize your full potential until you go through the tough times,” Kumai says. With that said, Kintsugi takes work and awareness in order for it to truly be healing.

So, they relate this to the broken heart. They say that, there will come a person/people who will make you a trusting being once again and much to the extent that your broken heart will be remolded with gold-like love.

Well, gold-as in the metal, is found in hot rocks in and around volcanoes. 

My question is, Why do I have to go to the volcano? Why can't I be a non-trusting person and be free of believing again?

Oh, did this give a negative ring to my blog post?

Wait, Is the sky green? Do the dogs meow? Can the birds drive? Do I trust you?